In conclusion, we all need to feel love in our lives.We all can find love in so many people that are in our lives already.Putting himself in a “father figure” position will install more of a sense of control.Treating you like a child that went to the mall, prior to doing her homework, is the kind of humiliation in you he is trying to achieve. Unfortunately, love is not everything to some people. The world we live in may be a reason to become paranoid of strangers, and suspicious of our own family, at times.
Instead of “…pick up some soda for me.”, the request should be, “We’re out of soda. When you can finally break through the chains, and find some free time for yourself, be prepared: your controlling boyfriend will interrogate you when you return.Taking the time to look within yourself and stop the behaviors or motivations that are making you accept an abusive relationship is the next.Professional counseling and self-help programs can be a big help when you need to change your expectations of the relationships you are in.Not showing you the courtesy to respect your wishes is not a behavior that goes away.This will continue as an abusive relationship, where you will be treated as an object, instead of a person.