At first I hated the way I felt, I would tense against it daily, try and push it away, get really angry about it, avoid everywhere and everything that made me feel this way, no wonder I got worse and my life got narrower.
I now understood it was not just going to disappear and I just learnt to just live with it, take it with me. No, but it did not hinder me as much and I wasted far less of my day on it.
When I learnt that I could not switch anxiety off, it was a relief.
I no longer had to search in my mind for that instant cure and I could just move on with my day and think about other things.
Yes it took time to build up the perfect attitude and I would sometimes have a good cry or feel sorry for myself on a bad day, but the next day I was back out and not letting it dominate my life like it had.
Lounging around feeling sorry for myself made me feel even more exhausted.There is no instant switch to stop you getting anxious over a social event, but it taught me that I had to just take things as they came and that feeling anxious was not then end of the world and the more I felt it, then the less I would feel it.I had to get used to it and put myself out there and then I would train my sub conscious to realise there was nothing to get anxious about.So basically I went to social events and took them as they came, not worrying if I felt anxious or not.Most times I would feel some anxiety, but it was never as bad as I thought it would be and usually by the end of the night I was chatting freely and as expected in time it just got easier.